"Happiness sometimes backfires, and bad states are sometimes good." I'm only 20 pages in but, authors Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener have already teased me into wanting to know more about why 'happiology' is flawed in their book, 'The Power of Negative Emotion' Instead of placing 'happiness' as the pinnacle, we should be striving for a state of 'wholeness'. Loosely applying the 80/20 rule to embracing both positive and negative emotions will help you point your compass in the right direction. Developing the ability to navigate every emotion helps you become emotionally, socially and mentally agile. Take what they describe as emotional time travel errors. When it comes to guessing how we're going to feel in the future, we most often guess wrong. We tend to overestimate how positive we'll feel in response to positive events and underestimate our capacity to tolerate distress. But, we still go ahead and base important life decisions on these flawed predictions. Saying yes to a new job for example, if you don't spend any time thinking about how your daily commute affects you, adding an extra 20 mins travelling time could swiftly undo the excitement you felt about your new role if you discover you're an anxious wreck by the time you make it to your new office. Big mistake. #mondaymotivation#thrive#worksmarter#books#bookrecommendation#currentlyreading#auntmabelhr#wholeness#happiness#psychology#scienceofhappiness#purpose
#tbt Cast your mind back to the last time you were as super chilled and caught up in the moment like this guy. If you're struggling to remember, you need to do something about it. With the very real temptation of being connected 24/7, now more than ever we need to stop ourselves from overworking before burnout creeps up on us. Whatever that thing is that helps you relax, make a plan and get it in your diary. They say a picture is worth a thousand words and this gem of a pic is saying "live for the moments you can't put into words". We get one crack at this, make it count. #onelife#noregrets#notmydog#goodtimes#philosophy#dowhatyoulove#auntmabelhr Photo credit to @meahthefluffycorgi for capturing this brilliant shot. Shout out to @myfavcorgi for sharing the pic.
Stick it to #humpday and make some time in your schedule today to hit the gym or go for a walk. I made time to hit the pool this morning and now I feel like I can conquer the world. No matter how busy you think you are, escaping your desk, even for just 30 minutes a day can lead you to your most creative solutions. We all need to get better at creating space in our daily schedules to innovate, think or even simply decompress. #justdoit#wellbeing#mindulness#auntmabelhr Photo credit to @veronicadearly for her knack of always being able to put a feeling into words.
Not a dilemma I've been faced with thankfully, but it has given me pause for thought... Would this sentiment be worthy of a 5-minute slot on breakfast TV if the source of the comment was a man? Damn right it would! But why? John Maynard Keynes has a pretty good answer, "the difficulty lies not in the new ideas, but in escaping from the old ones." So there you go, the explanation as to why gender bias and pay inequality still exist in the workplace today is habit. OK so now we're getting somewhere. It's well documented that if you set your mind to it, it takes 21 days to break a habit and create a new behaviour. How many years have we been working on this with little progress? The truth is we could actually resolve this issue in most workplaces if more CEO's and HR Directors with the power to influence committed fully to a 30-day challenge to put it right? Could it be any more simple to crack this nut? #justdoit#lesstalkmoreaction#hrpolicy#makechangehappen#genderequality#equalpay#bias#habit#auntmabelhr#CEO#companyculture#workplacedesign#futureofwork#worktrends#entrepreneur#entrepreneurlife#leadership#accountability#influencer Photo credit shout out to @deskmag_ for posting the pic and to @transistor.berlin for the inspiration
This is so much more scenic than the 9 hours of just motorway I've had to stare down. Anyone else find the last leg of a road trip excruciating? I might just have the perfect road trip companion for you. Check out the Spotify playlist 'The Most Beautiful Songs in the World'. It was recommended to me last night and it's just been an absolute lifesaver on our drive back to London from Scotland today. Normally with 2-3 hours to go on any road trip I enter the 'fidget stage'. That point in the trip when you've seen enough roadworks to last you a lifetime and no amount of "you're in the final stretch" pep talks from your co-pilot can bring you down from that scratchy mood that rears it's head. Anyone with me on this? I'm a big fan of podcasts on long drives, but it's just not possible to play them back to back a la Netflix so I gave the Spotify playlist a go and it worked a treat in helping the last few hours fly by. Anyone else got any road trip tips they care to share? Massive shout out to @sezzor for the recommendation and, thanks @spotify for your modern day twist on the classic 'mix tape'. #roadtriphack#payingitforward#roadtrips#digitalnomad#playlist#spotify#music#recommendation#checkitout#auntmabelhr#travel#ontheroad#passiton#wellbeing Photo credit to @loseyourdesk for the share and @muenchmax for their pic of Juliet Pass in Switzerland.
Anyone else remember queuing patiently at one of these for ages at a time, patiently waiting your turn and trying hard not to eavesdrop on the conversation? These days, the majority of us find it difficult standing in a queue for longer than 30 seconds without interacting with our smart phones. It probably wouldn't surprise any of you to know that the average person checks email 74 times a day, will spend 2 years of their life on Facebook and, in a single work day, our brain switches tasks 566 times when we're in front of our computer. All of the above stats have come from Manoush Zomorodi and her brilliant TED Talk, How boredom can lead to your best ideas. By self-regulating the time we spend on our phones, we could put that time to much better use. Multi-tasking is a fallacy and in truth, doing nothing is a much more effective way to tap into your creativity. Our brains get really busy when we're on autopilot and we get our best ideas when we daydream. In her talk, Manoush recalls a conversation she had with a UX designer, "the only people who refer to their customers as users are drug dealers and technologists". As she puts it, users are worth a lot of money so it's hardly surprising that app developers set out with the purpose of getting us addicted to our phones and grabbing our attention more and more of the time. Tech companies want to trigger this obsessive behaviour and we are falling for it at the expense of our social lives and our inherent need to sleep. As more and more of us start to come to terms with our obsessive relationships, Manoush leaves us with some cautionary words that are worthy of reflection. "If you don't decide how you're going to use the technology, the platforms will do it for you." #tedtalk#boredandbrilliant#creativity#innovation#talksworthtalkingabout#workdifferent#worksmarter#auntmabelhr#ted#phonebox#digitaldetox#connectivity#balance#wellbeing#addiction#behaviourchange#behaviour Photo credit shout out to @tinyatlasquarterly for the blast of nostalgia.